We all know it. Deep down - I mean how many times have you heard it. Justin Long said it best: "if a guy treats you like he doesn't give a shit, it's because he doesn't give a shit." Why do we rationalize and dissect everything a guy does and says until we've come up with a reason of why he's a jerk. Maybe a guy is a jerk because he is actually a jerk. No other reason. Red flag - run fast. Don't try to explain, or rationalize his mean behaviour, just walk away.
Yet, we have an image of being this girl that 'changes' a guy, makes him a better person. My question is why would you want to put yourself through that? All the heart ache and pain just to attempt to make him 'better?' Why don't we want an already good guy. A guy that calls when he says he will, makes plans and follows through, texts me because he wants to see how I'm doing. No games, no questioning whether he will show up. A reliable guy. Okay..he may be reliable, but also boring.
So here is the dilemma - I want a nice, good guy that isn't too nice. Tough balance to find. I guess the answer to this solution would be to stay single. Live the single gal life and flirt with guys when I'm in the mood. I want to, again, pull off the guy complex. Instead of having someone dangle me along, I want to dangle a guy along. Make him want me, maybe even wait for me, then ditch him. I want to make a guy sit at home on a Friday night waiting for me, instead of the other way around. Make a guy persue me, instead of throwing myself at guys.
I'm not sure I am actually capable of doing that, but a single gal can dream, can't she?
Yet, we have an image of being this girl that 'changes' a guy, makes him a better person. My question is why would you want to put yourself through that? All the heart ache and pain just to attempt to make him 'better?' Why don't we want an already good guy. A guy that calls when he says he will, makes plans and follows through, texts me because he wants to see how I'm doing. No games, no questioning whether he will show up. A reliable guy. Okay..he may be reliable, but also boring.
So here is the dilemma - I want a nice, good guy that isn't too nice. Tough balance to find. I guess the answer to this solution would be to stay single. Live the single gal life and flirt with guys when I'm in the mood. I want to, again, pull off the guy complex. Instead of having someone dangle me along, I want to dangle a guy along. Make him want me, maybe even wait for me, then ditch him. I want to make a guy sit at home on a Friday night waiting for me, instead of the other way around. Make a guy persue me, instead of throwing myself at guys.
I'm not sure I am actually capable of doing that, but a single gal can dream, can't she?
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